We are glad to see the xconcept of divorce mediation making news. There are an increased number of mediators in the state which is positive--there are also attorneys who are acting as mediators and then representing one of the parties at the divorce hearing--a NO NO--a TABOO. Doing so results in a lack of NEUTRALITY--an inability to assist the other party with suggested changes, additions or alterations to the memorandum of understanding. Don't allow yourself to be fooled-the attorney who mediates cannot be an advocate in an adversarial process for either party!!!


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Pamela Macktaz and Jean George create a unique team with over 70 years of combined Rhode Island Family Court experience. We successfully assist clients with divorce, case management, parenting plans, memorandums of understanding, and parent coordination in high conflict families.

For questions about this posting or any divorce questions CONTACT US at (401)942-3000 or visit our Divorce in Rhode Island website

Hi--long time no blog. Business is busy which tells me more people have decided they should make the rules for their lives--not an attorney not a judge. Anyone who has tried mediation knows it is not easy but it is preferable to hanging out in court corridors. I am still looking for those people who have had to slog through that system so they can confirm my position.


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Pamela Macktaz and Jean George create a unique team with over 70 years of combined Rhode Island Family Court experience. We successfully assist clients with divorce, case management, parenting plans, memorandums of understanding, and parent coordination in high conflict families.

For questions about this posting or any divorce questions CONTACT US at (401)942-3000 or visit our Divorce in Rhode Island website

seeing the light

I am still looking for folks who can help others by detailing their slog through the court labyrinth. We will not use your names. It might help others realize there is an alternative. Our own clients come to us before enduring the expense of a court struggle. We know you are out there and need a sounding board.

We are seeing that when clients come in with there financial info we can usually develop a memorandum of understanding after 3 to 4 hours of mediating. Is this not terrific in light of the average length of the court process with delays, lawyers busy elsewhere etc. Even if you do not need our services it would help to hear from you. Be well!!

It appears that the economy is definitely causing folks to consider mediation as opposed to an ugly and expensive court battle. Finally something positive about a lousy economy!! As we tell people all the time it makes better sense to sit with us around a conference table--sip some water or coffee(we make delicious coffee) and work through all those issues that can appear so intimidating at first.

We are finding that encouraging people to relax and talk--even raise their voices if need be--cry if it helps--does result in a catharsis of sorts. It is very encouraging to two people who truly believe in this process.

Hi--we've been quiet for a few weeks. We are busy which is a good thing. It appears that more and more people are beginning to see the value of Mediation as a resource for a negotiated divorce settlement.The majority of the people we are seeing have children under the age of 10 years. There is an appreciation among them that they will be attending Parent/Teacher meetings for years to come--dealing with the usual array of childhood traumas together and basically needing to be able to communicate. We can give them that tool and it is quite gratifying.

An additional plus is that they save much needed money in the present economy. Once they agree to try Mediation it is a sign that they want something better than what the adversarial process. There are tears and raised voices but we remind them of their initial commitment and are able to move forward. If divorce is to be part of your life we urge that you consider the Mediation process. We offer a free consult so there is nothing to lose!!!

-I have been attempting to demonstrate the difference between a negotiated settlement and an adversarial trial to resolve divorce and parenting issues. I would like to hear from folks who have survived the traditional court route as to whether or not that route improved your ability to communicate and parent your kids. I have many stories from children who have lived through their parents divorce. Let me hear from you. --------------------------------------------
Pamela Macktaz and Jean George create a unique team with over 70 years of combined Rhode Island Family Court experience. We successfully assist clients with divorce, case management, parenting plans, memorandums of understanding, and parent coordination in high conflict families.

For questions about this posting or any divorce questions CONTACT US at (401)942-3000 or visit our Divorce in Rhode Island website

Being a parent is a lifetime commitment

Being a parent is a lifetime commitment that does not end when the marriage ends. Learning to parent cooperatively is good for children as they have the right to love and be loved by both parents. There is never a need to compete for your child's affection and loyalty. Always remember your children have rights and their well-being should always be your top priority.

Separation and Divorce are difficult for children who may react differently depending on their ages. They are by and large resilient and studies reveal that most are their normal selves within two years of the event. Just keep a sharp eye out for any signs that are severe in nature and seek help from the mental health community.


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Pamela Macktaz and Jean George create a unique team with over 70 years of combined Rhode Island Family Court experience. We successfully assist clients with divorce, case management, parenting plans, memorandums of understanding, and parent coordination in high conflict families.

For questions about this posting or any divorce questions CONTACT US at (401)942-3000 or visit our Divorce in Rhode Island website